Our former homefinder (aka our case worker as foster parents) has now moved to a new position in adoptions. She called me out of the blue to ask if we’d be interested in taking a 16 year old girl who is freed for adoption.
I’ve mentioned before that Seth and I originally planned to take teens when we became foster parents, and life got in the way and now we are in the groove of having little kids. But saying we had originally planned to take teens and making the decision to now take a teen are different things, at least according to my blood pressure and heart rate.
Kiddo is adamant that she doesn’t want to share a bedroom with Tiny and “she’s not getting my room!” Soooo, we will have some emotional land mines to try to navigate with Kiddo this weekend. Maybe if we promise to let her redo Tiny’s room with fancy bunk beds or something. It’ll be a bit rough negotiating with Kiddo because her room has been her room for 5 years. There’s bound to be some emotional stuff there.
Kiddo’s mom is worried about this teen because she was once in foster care and remembers how screwed up the other teens were. That scares me. And makes me so sad.
But at the same time, doesn’t every kid deserve a chance? This particular teen’s bio says she likes art (check – artist here), writing (check), and music. She’s rumored to be afraid of cats – we have five. So that might make things not work from the get go. It’s not ideal timing as Seth is entering his final semester of nursing school and rebuilding a bathroom at the same time. And the bedroom this child would need is currently full of construction materials. And we are down to one bathroom for the household and only a bath tub.
Buuuut, we’ve told the agency we are interested in moving forward with at least a phone call introduction for now, to see how things might go.
One of the things making me inclined to go forward with this is this awesome YouTube channel called Be the Village. It’s a family with little kids who fostered a teenage girl for a year and a half before the teen went back home. And it went well – she was a good kid. That channel is in the back of my mind now. There’s a chance it could work out great.
There’s also a chance it could be a disaster, but 🤷🏼♀️.
I’m apparently a risk taker.
Who knows where this will go. Odds are it won’t happen. But… it might.
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Please at least meet her, and be honest and upfront with her about the living situation, and see how she feels about. You might really help a young woman, with what sounds like a lot of potential, really flourish. It sounds like she deserves a break.
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I think this an opportunity that is worth taking, there are so many kids and to take a teenager and turn their life around for the better will be worth it. Meet them if anything and let your heart decide as well as theirs if this would be a good pairing for all of you. Someone deserves a loving home and I know you both are the most loving people 💗
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