February 2021 – Page 2

Parenting in my mid 40s

Everyone who reads this blog should know by now that I love being a foster parent. It’s not just something I do. It’s who I am. We didn’t become foster parents until I was almost 40. Do I regret not having become foster parents sooner? Yes, yes I do. I sometimes think about all ofContinue reading “Parenting in my mid 40s”

Did we think about having our own biological kids?

No, we really didn’t. Neither Seth nor I ever felt the drive to reproduce. Heaven only knows why we are wired that way, but we both are. For me, a big part of it is the environment. I couldn’t bear to bring a child into this world and give him or her the legacy ofContinue reading “Did we think about having our own biological kids?”

Transracial Adoption Worries

As much as I say I want to adopt a child someday, I am really struggling around Tiny’s future right now. It’s unclear whether she will get to go home or not. Ultimately the decision on whether she goes home is not up to us. Not even a little bit. But I’m living with theContinue reading “Transracial Adoption Worries”

“Our story”

By request, I’m going to tell the story of how Seth and I met and a bit more about our history. And I’m making Seth add his own commentary, against his will and better judgment. After I graduated from Colby College, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I had workedContinue reading ““Our story””

Sort of Siblings

Kiddo has been with us for 5+ years, which means she’s been here for all the other foster kids we’ve had. In fact, she’s been here when we picked up Mouse and PB&J from the hospital and got dragged along for the ride. It’s really weird to have a placement arrive and not have KiddoContinue reading “Sort of Siblings”

Explaining Black Lives Matter to a nine-year-old

We have lots of fun things on our refrigerator. I have a Michelle Obama bumper sticker that say “When they go low, we go high,” and an Elizabeth Warren one that says “Persist.” I’ve got a flyer from Dai Bosatsu Zendo that has New Years wishes on it. There are magnets from Glennon Doyle thatContinue reading “Explaining Black Lives Matter to a nine-year-old”

Worst Drive Ever?

I’m not someone who minds driving in the snow. I always have all wheel drive vehicles and snow tires, and don’t mind slowing down and taking it easy. In fact, if it weren’t for other drivers, I would love driving in the snow. A little drifting is great fun! That said, even I have myContinue reading “Worst Drive Ever?”