Everyone who reads this blog should know by now that I love being a foster parent. It’s not just something I do. It’s who I am. We didn’t become foster parents until I was almost 40. Do I regret not having become foster parents sooner? Yes, yes I do. I sometimes think about all ofContinue reading “Parenting in my mid 40s”
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Did we think about having our own biological kids?
No, we really didn’t. Neither Seth nor I ever felt the drive to reproduce. Heaven only knows why we are wired that way, but we both are. For me, a big part of it is the environment. I couldn’t bear to bring a child into this world and give him or her the legacy ofContinue reading “Did we think about having our own biological kids?”
“Our story”
By request, I’m going to tell the story of how Seth and I met and a bit more about our history. And I’m making Seth add his own commentary, against his will and better judgment. After I graduated from Colby College, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I had workedContinue reading ““Our story””
Sort of Siblings
Kiddo has been with us for 5+ years, which means she’s been here for all the other foster kids we’ve had. In fact, she’s been here when we picked up Mouse and PB&J from the hospital and got dragged along for the ride. It’s really weird to have a placement arrive and not have KiddoContinue reading “Sort of Siblings”
Chincoteague, a four year old, and 🦟
Seth and I haven’t taken a proper vacation in 4 years now. Part of that is Covid putting the kibosh on our plans last summer. Part of it is that it can be hard to get travel permission with foster kids. A lot of folks don’t realize that bio parents still have a lot ofContinue reading “Chincoteague, a four year old, and 🦟”
Famous people who were once in foster care
Simone Biles Tiffany Haddish Eddie Murphy Marilyn Monroe Rosie Perez Colin Kaepernick Steve Jobs Malcolm X Seal A little while ago Seth and I took in a super short term emergency placement. Two little girls needed a place to go for the weekend before a more permanent foster home could be found for them onContinue reading “Famous people who were once in foster care”
Representation Matters – Black Kids Literature Version
It’s the nature of our foster care system – which is full of its own institutional biases – that there are lots of BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) kids in the system. I’m sure I’ll write more about institutional racism in another post some day. It’s a massive issue. Just to give youContinue reading “Representation Matters – Black Kids Literature Version”
Transference is Real in Foster Care
“Transference is a phenomenon in which one seems to direct feelings or desires related to an important figure in one’s life—such as a parent—toward someone who is not that person.” – Psychology Today For a long time Kiddo was really angry with her Mom. It was her Mom who she had been with when sheContinue reading “Transference is Real in Foster Care”
Our Daycares Saga
Its a long saga so pour a cup o’ coffee and get cozy. On the whole, Seth and I have been really lucky with daycares. Choosing a daycare is such a monumental task because your child is going to spend more waking hours at daycare than at home with you during the week. So howContinue reading “Our Daycares Saga”
What it takes to get licensed as a foster parent
People sometimes ask us how hard it is to become a foster parent. Getting licensed to become foster parents was a time commitment and a whole hell of a lot of paperwork but it wasn’t difficult per se. We first had to submit an initial application, which was reviewed to determine our basic eligibility. IContinue reading “What it takes to get licensed as a foster parent”
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