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Healing as a “Not Working” Working Mom

There’s no secret that my time working at a law firm was painfully difficult for me. I am smart and a good researcher and writer so that part of the work was good. I wrote some kick-ass legal briefs in my time there, and won some difficult cases in part because of my research andContinue reading “Healing as a “Not Working” Working Mom”

Openness in Adoptions

I’m strongly in favor of open adoptions – in the vast majority of cases – for so many reasons, primarily because there’s abundant research that now shows it is healthiest for the kids, and it should all be about the kids. Times have changed. This is not the 80s when adoptions were usually closed. WeContinue reading “Openness in Adoptions”

It’s never uncomplicated in foster care

It’s a slightly quieter house now in that baby Cookie has gone home to live with his relative. She’s over the moon to have him, and he’s a content little guy with all the holding and doting that’s going on. So it’s a happy ending in my book! It almost didn’t happen, because the relativeContinue reading “It’s never uncomplicated in foster care”

Caring for Newborns is Hard, Y’all

It’s hard to sum up what life has been like the last month and a half. The best way is perhaps to explain what happened yesterday. We had not one, but TWO case workers come over yesterday to do monthly home visits – one for Sprout and one for Cookie. So we deep cleaned becauseContinue reading “Caring for Newborns is Hard, Y’all”

Roller coaster fun with a baby

Baby “Cookie” is doing well. He’s gained 12 oz since he’s been with us!! Given that he came home from the hospital weighing a weenie 6 lbs, 12 more ounces is a really good thing. He’s not at all an easy kid to feed. He spits up a lot and actually vomits a lot, soContinue reading “Roller coaster fun with a baby”

Newborns are cute. And painful.

Yesterday late afternoon I got a call from the County asking if I would take a short term placement of a newborn male. We are focused on girls with medical issues in this household now, but I’ve always wanted to have the newborn experience and couldn’t until now because I was working. So since itContinue reading “Newborns are cute. And painful.”

Misalignment

One of the biggest challenges Seth and I have with fostering is that we are not always on the same page. We are always great teammates when it comes to fostering the kids who are in our care. But where we disagree is regarding what – or who – will come next. I want allContinue reading “Misalignment”

Terrifically Tiny

I love our Tiny. Everybody knows that. But let me brag about her for a bit. She’s an amazing kid. She’s freaking brilliant (yes I’m biased but I’m really not exaggerating) and mature beyond age 3. Her therapist is continually amazed at her acuity and ability to identify what she’s feeling (“I have 14 yearContinue reading “Terrifically Tiny”

That Sweet Baby Smell

The day after I wrote about longing for a third kid to be placed with us? We got the call we could say yes to! Was it for a child within our age range? Not even a little bit. Was it a kid with medical issues? Nope – thankfully she’s healthy. Did we say yesContinue reading “That Sweet Baby Smell”