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If I Ruled the World

We had court for Sprout this past week. It was her routine permanency hearing, which happens every 6 months. The issue of guardianship versus adoption came up in the midst of the court proceeding. The attorney for the child brought up that we have been considering guardianship as opposed to adoption, and the judge noddedContinue reading “If I Ruled the World”

Sharing Momming

Sprout Monday was Eid Al Fitr, so we took Sprout to visit her fam several hours away so she could celebrate with them. It’s a big deal for Sprout to be there for Eid because we aren’t Muslim, and while we could try to celebrate, we can’t celebrate like her family. She needs her familyContinue reading “Sharing Momming”

Foster parents should not have to fight for the limited rights they have.

I had something happen yesterday that was a bit frustrating and also a bit concerning. Before I explain it I need to explain a little about court proceedings for foster kids. Types of court proceedings for foster kids When kids come into foster care, there is an emergency hearing where a judge has to authorizeContinue reading “Foster parents should not have to fight for the limited rights they have.”

Reining Things In

For quite some time now Seth and I have been discussing cutting back on fostering. I’ve always pushed to take more kids. He’s always pushed to have fewer kids and is utterly content with the two-ish we’ve got. It’s been a delicate balancing act to negotiate which kids we take, and when. After baby CookieContinue reading “Reining Things In”

Wrinkles in the plan. Or perhaps shreds.

I’ve spoken to a variety of attorneys in the last few days about the potential for making Sprout our legal ward rather than adopting her. Doing so would preserve the legal familial bond she has with her mother and siblings, and would avoid the need for her to get a new birth certificate that erasesContinue reading “Wrinkles in the plan. Or perhaps shreds.”

Sprout’s Little Bitty Voice Matters

We had a home visit by Sprout’s new case worker yesterday, and my brain has been churning with thoughts ever since. For the most part it was a perfectly ordinary home visit. She brought Sprout a new teddy bear and a fuzzy blanket that’s pink with green frogs on it. Sprout was super polite aboutContinue reading “Sprout’s Little Bitty Voice Matters”

Divided Loyalties

I have had a couple of heartbreaking conversations with Sprout in the past week. The first was triggered by a picture we put next to Sprout’s bed of her first family. It’s a cute candid shot of her Mama holding her and all her siblings gathered around them. I printed and framed it and setContinue reading “Divided Loyalties”

Life Books

Lately as I’ve been picking up my house from tornado whirlwinds of kid chaos, I noticed both the kids have been carting around their Life Books and looking through them a bunch. What’s a Life Book? And why make one? Everyone is curious about their origin, their early years, their “story” as it were. ButContinue reading “Life Books”

It’s never uncomplicated in foster care

It’s a slightly quieter house now in that baby Cookie has gone home to live with his relative. She’s over the moon to have him, and he’s a content little guy with all the holding and doting that’s going on. So it’s a happy ending in my book! It almost didn’t happen, because the relativeContinue reading “It’s never uncomplicated in foster care”