The sweet babe we were expecting to come to us today? Yeaaaaah… not so fast. The judge, rightly so, decided to send her home to her parents instead. The county was planning to recommend she go home by the end of summer anyway, and the parents have been doing everything they need to do, soContinue reading “Alas! Foster care is unpredictable as can be!”
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Racism in Glaring Statistics
I’m in the midst of a three-day conference put together annually by Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition of New York (AFFCNY). It’s so damn good. There’s so much good info in this conference, but this morning a set of statistics slapped me across the face. I’ve previously mentioned that Black kids are over represented inContinue reading “Racism in Glaring Statistics”
If I Ruled the World
We had court for Sprout this past week. It was her routine permanency hearing, which happens every 6 months. The issue of guardianship versus adoption came up in the midst of the court proceeding. The attorney for the child brought up that we have been considering guardianship as opposed to adoption, and the judge noddedContinue reading “If I Ruled the World”
Sharing Momming
Sprout Monday was Eid Al Fitr, so we took Sprout to visit her fam several hours away so she could celebrate with them. It’s a big deal for Sprout to be there for Eid because we aren’t Muslim, and while we could try to celebrate, we can’t celebrate like her family. She needs her familyContinue reading “Sharing Momming”
Age 4, with Trauma
This morning’s conversations with almost-four-year-old Sprout have me seriously thrown. I kind of want to curl up in a corner and cry, honestly. Sprout: “You hate my Mommy [name]?” Me: “What? No! I love your Mommy! She’s so sweet. And I love anyone who loves you like she does.” Sprout: “Really?” Me: “Really really. IContinue reading “Age 4, with Trauma”
Foster parents should not have to fight for the limited rights they have.
I had something happen yesterday that was a bit frustrating and also a bit concerning. Before I explain it I need to explain a little about court proceedings for foster kids. Types of court proceedings for foster kids When kids come into foster care, there is an emergency hearing where a judge has to authorizeContinue reading “Foster parents should not have to fight for the limited rights they have.”
Wrinkles in the plan. Or perhaps shreds.
I’ve spoken to a variety of attorneys in the last few days about the potential for making Sprout our legal ward rather than adopting her. Doing so would preserve the legal familial bond she has with her mother and siblings, and would avoid the need for her to get a new birth certificate that erasesContinue reading “Wrinkles in the plan. Or perhaps shreds.”
Sprout’s Little Bitty Voice Matters
We had a home visit by Sprout’s new case worker yesterday, and my brain has been churning with thoughts ever since. For the most part it was a perfectly ordinary home visit. She brought Sprout a new teddy bear and a fuzzy blanket that’s pink with green frogs on it. Sprout was super polite aboutContinue reading “Sprout’s Little Bitty Voice Matters”
Divided Loyalties
I have had a couple of heartbreaking conversations with Sprout in the past week. The first was triggered by a picture we put next to Sprout’s bed of her first family. It’s a cute candid shot of her Mama holding her and all her siblings gathered around them. I printed and framed it and setContinue reading “Divided Loyalties”
Life Books
Lately as I’ve been picking up my house from tornado whirlwinds of kid chaos, I noticed both the kids have been carting around their Life Books and looking through them a bunch. What’s a Life Book? And why make one? Everyone is curious about their origin, their early years, their “story” as it were. ButContinue reading “Life Books”
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