For quite some time now Seth and I have been discussing cutting back on fostering. I’ve always pushed to take more kids. He’s always pushed to have fewer kids and is utterly content with the two-ish we’ve got. It’s been a delicate balancing act to negotiate which kids we take, and when. After baby CookieContinue reading “Reining Things In”
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Wrinkles in the plan. Or perhaps shreds.
I’ve spoken to a variety of attorneys in the last few days about the potential for making Sprout our legal ward rather than adopting her. Doing so would preserve the legal familial bond she has with her mother and siblings, and would avoid the need for her to get a new birth certificate that erasesContinue reading “Wrinkles in the plan. Or perhaps shreds.”
Divided Loyalties
I have had a couple of heartbreaking conversations with Sprout in the past week. The first was triggered by a picture we put next to Sprout’s bed of her first family. It’s a cute candid shot of her Mama holding her and all her siblings gathered around them. I printed and framed it and setContinue reading “Divided Loyalties”
Little things matter so much
I just finally got Saturday’s mail, and there was a lovey little thank you note from Cookie’s case worker in the mailbox.  No case worker has ever sent us a thank you note before. We already liked Cookie’s case worker, but now I REALLY like her. I feel… appreciated. And that’s rare in fosterContinue reading “Little things matter so much”
Caring for Newborns is Hard, Y’all
It’s hard to sum up what life has been like the last month and a half. The best way is perhaps to explain what happened yesterday. We had not one, but TWO case workers come over yesterday to do monthly home visits – one for Sprout and one for Cookie. So we deep cleaned becauseContinue reading “Caring for Newborns is Hard, Y’all”
Christmas tidings!
Christmas is always a strange holiday for foster families. Depending on where kids are on their reunification journeys, often our kids have had visits with first families on Christmas, which we’ve always encouraged and facilitated. This year that’s not the case as Sprout’s family doesn’t celebrate Christmas in any significant way (they’re Muslim), and they’reContinue reading “Christmas tidings!”
Roller coaster fun with a baby
Baby “Cookie” is doing well. He’s gained 12 oz since he’s been with us!! Given that he came home from the hospital weighing a weenie 6 lbs, 12 more ounces is a really good thing. He’s not at all an easy kid to feed. He spits up a lot and actually vomits a lot, soContinue reading “Roller coaster fun with a baby”
Recertification as a Foster Home
Every two years we have to be re-certified by the County that holds our foster care license. The process is fairly simple. First, we have to do physicals. There’s a form our doctors have to complete that basically confirms we are healthy enough to be foster parents and are up to date generally. Second, sinceContinue reading “Recertification as a Foster Home”
Gloriously Unemployed
I’ve written a little bit about my work history previously here. If you don’t feel like reading the old post, in short, my work story is as follows: I went to Cornell Law School, and went straight to a law firm of roughly 65 attorneys where I worked for 15 years practicing environmental and zoningContinue reading “Gloriously Unemployed”
A Yucky Post to Write
We have notified the County that we need to have them move Little Dude if they can find another place for him. I’m feeling… well, terrible about it. I’m also vastly relieved at the idea, which is probably pretty telling. I wrote a while back about having a hard time bonding with Little Dude Man,Continue reading “A Yucky Post to Write”
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