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Heartache

I just got a call from the agency that I deeply appreciate having gotten. Years ago we told our homefinder (basically our case worker) that if ever a child we’ve fostered comes back into foster care, we want to be called first. It’s happened twice now. The first time I got a call it wasContinue reading “Heartache”

“Oh, that’s cool, I guess.”

I flipped through my memories the other day on Facebook and came across this one: Overheard, man and woman talking in the elevator.Woman: How old is the baby now?Man: 5 weeks, and she has lungs like an opera singer!(conversation ensues all about the man’s baby.)Woman: Did you know I have a baby now? I’m aContinue reading ““Oh, that’s cool, I guess.””

Missing my beloveds

I’ve written before about missing kids when they go home, and have said that it gets easier with time. While that’s true for the most part, I still have my moments missing two different kids in particular. This popped up in my FB feed yesterday. We had Gronckle with us for about 9 months. WhenContinue reading “Missing my beloveds”

Little things matter so much

I just finally got Saturday’s mail, and there was a lovey little thank you note from Cookie’s case worker in the mailbox. No case worker has ever sent us a thank you note before. We already liked Cookie’s case worker, but now I REALLY like her. I feel… appreciated. And that’s rare in fosterContinue reading “Little things matter so much”

Kids and Cats Galore

If you hadn’t realized this already, we are crazy cat people. Like for real. We never set out to be, it just… happened. When I met Seth he had one awesome cat. And when he died we took in a stray kitten that the neighborhood kids found in a dumpster and brought to us. ItContinue reading “Kids and Cats Galore”

Misalignment

One of the biggest challenges Seth and I have with fostering is that we are not always on the same page. We are always great teammates when it comes to fostering the kids who are in our care. But where we disagree is regarding what – or who – will come next. I want allContinue reading “Misalignment”

“Are they all… troubled?”

I went to the doctor yesterday for some routine blood work. As so often happens, I chatted with the nurse who was taking my blood pressure and pulse and in the course of conversation she asked if I have any children. I answered her that I’m a foster parent. She then asked me what agesContinue reading ““Are they all… troubled?””

Foster Care’s Unpredictability

Learning how to roll with foster care’s ups and downs is… well honestly not completely possible. I don’t think anyone can do it perfectly and if they can then I suspect they aren’t in foster care for the right reasons. When Kiddo had been with us for about a year, we were told by herContinue reading “Foster Care’s Unpredictability”