We have lots of conversations lately about what “family” means. Sprout, whose adoption is in the not-too-distant future (in theory anyway), has been super aware of the fact that she’s not a permanent part of our family yet. She’s very insecure about it, and asks almost daily if she can be a part of ourContinue reading ““Do you trust me to be your kid?””
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Adoption Pending…
Sprout is starting to understand what “adoption” means. Daily, she tells us “you’re my family. My forever family. I’m going to be adopted,” or some variation on that theme. She’s anxious for it to happen soon and be official. Having a kid go through termination of parental rights is hard but having one who isContinue reading “Adoption Pending…”
Surrender
Yesterday we went to court and witnessed Sprout’s loving Mama surrender her legal rights to her. It lasted only a little over an hour, but was one of the most difficult hours I’ve ever been through. Mama’s rights were explained to her in detail, and the surrender agreement reviewed in which Seth and I committedContinue reading “Surrender”
Different Kids, Different Views
Our experience with kids’ desires about their futures are pretty varied. We started our foster care journey with Kiddo. She had just turned 4 when she came to us. Initially her parents were not doing what they needed to to get her back, and Kiddo was seething with fury at her Mom for telling CPSContinue reading “Different Kids, Different Views”
Family Expansion
We just had a visit with Sprout and Sunny’s family. It’s a two hour drive to Mama’s house, which the girls complain is the most boring thing ever, but when we get there it’s all worth it. Today, not only was their Mama there and their other three siblings, but also an uncle and twoContinue reading “Family Expansion”
Openness in Adoptions
I’m strongly in favor of open adoptions – in the vast majority of cases – for so many reasons, primarily because there’s abundant research that now shows it is healthiest for the kids, and it should all be about the kids. Times have changed. This is not the 80s when adoptions were usually closed. WeContinue reading “Openness in Adoptions”
The Adoption Process Takes an Eternity
So. One of our kids will have been in foster care nearly 1000 days when we next get to court, when the court will determine whether to terminate her parents’ parental rights. Because that court date is coming up in less than a month, I contacted the guy I’m going to hire as our attorneyContinue reading “The Adoption Process Takes an Eternity”
Closing in on 1,000 isn’t “lucky”
Sprout has been in foster care 921 days.  By the time we get to court next, it’ll have been 963 days. I am a nervous wreck. I don’t know what to expect in court other than an excruciatingly emotional day. I’ve worked as a lawyer in the system but never got to this stageContinue reading “Closing in on 1,000 isn’t “lucky””
Training, Daily
Every year I’m asked by our agency if I’ve done any “training” on foster parenting. It’s part of our recertification process and I want to talk a little about the training I do almost daily. To become a foster parent, there is a training requirement. It’s a class, which for us was 11 weeks IContinue reading “Training, Daily”
Missing my beloveds
I’ve written before about missing kids when they go home, and have said that it gets easier with time. While that’s true for the most part, I still have my moments missing two different kids in particular. This popped up in my FB feed yesterday. We had Gronckle with us for about 9 months. WhenContinue reading “Missing my beloveds”
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