Today we had court for Sprout. A couple of months ago her Mama surrendered her legal rights to Sprout in an emotionally draining court appearance. Today was the date for terminating her father’s legal rights. Sprout’s father has, er, well, not been involved, at least not since an incident that happened around the time sheContinue reading “Legally Freed!”
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How does trauma affect behavior?
On Thursday, I packed up Sunny and Sprout and went to Boston with my Dad for my niece’s graduation weekend. Seth had to work, and doesn’t yet have the kind of seniority he needs to take off his weekend shifts. So it was my Dad and me and the girls. To say I was apprehensiveContinue reading “How does trauma affect behavior?”
The School “About My Family” Project
Schools seem to have universal taste for “about my family” or “my family tree” projects. I loathe them. And they seem to happen every year in some form or another. They’re a lot of pressure on foster kids to open up about being in foster care, or have the project raise questions when they talkContinue reading “The School “About My Family” Project”
Visit Blues
Visits are hellaciously hard. Leading up to the girls’ visit with their family today, I could feel the tension climbing. They fought more about stupid things, and Sunny’s mood soured. She got short tempered and cranky, biting her sister’s head off at regular intervals, and sniping at me with anything she could think of toContinue reading “Visit Blues”
Oh boy. Exactly what just happened?
Yesterday was a rough day for me. We had a service plan review (“SPR”) meeting for the girls, which means the case workers and Mama and a third party reviewer go over her case and what she needs to do to get her kids back. I get to attend as a foster parent. Then laterContinue reading “Oh boy. Exactly what just happened?”
“Do you trust me to be your kid?”
We have lots of conversations lately about what “family” means. Sprout, whose adoption is in the not-too-distant future (in theory anyway), has been super aware of the fact that she’s not a permanent part of our family yet. She’s very insecure about it, and asks almost daily if she can be a part of ourContinue reading ““Do you trust me to be your kid?””
The System is Broken
I hear this phrase all the time. Hell, I use this phrase all the time. But what do I mean by it? My short answer to people is always about overloaded and underpaid case workers, but there is so much more to it than that. It’s corrupt judges, state laws that discriminate against families withContinue reading “The System is Broken”
Snow Day Updates
It’s a snow day across much of the northeast. The snow started off slow overnight, but it’s coming down in buckets now, and I’m glad the kids are home and not on the roads. However, I’m trying to get some work done for the Planning Board for which I am secretary. Ha! Silly me, notContinue reading “Snow Day Updates”
Adoption Pending…
Sprout is starting to understand what “adoption” means. Daily, she tells us “you’re my family. My forever family. I’m going to be adopted,” or some variation on that theme. She’s anxious for it to happen soon and be official. Having a kid go through termination of parental rights is hard but having one who isContinue reading “Adoption Pending…”
Surrender
Yesterday we went to court and witnessed Sprout’s loving Mama surrender her legal rights to her. It lasted only a little over an hour, but was one of the most difficult hours I’ve ever been through. Mama’s rights were explained to her in detail, and the surrender agreement reviewed in which Seth and I committedContinue reading “Surrender”
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