There’s no secret that my time working at a law firm was painfully difficult for me. I am smart and a good researcher and writer so that part of the work was good. I wrote some kick-ass legal briefs in my time there, and won some difficult cases in part because of my research andContinue reading “Healing as a “Not Working” Working Mom”
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Different Kids, Different Views
Our experience with kids’ desires about their futures are pretty varied. We started our foster care journey with Kiddo. She had just turned 4 when she came to us. Initially her parents were not doing what they needed to to get her back, and Kiddo was seething with fury at her Mom for telling CPSContinue reading “Different Kids, Different Views”
Racism 101 in my Household
Sunny learned about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. in school. On the Monday holiday honoring him, she got up bright and early and asked me enthusiastically, “Are we going to go see Dr. King Jr. today?” My heart thumped extra hard. I explained to her that he is dead now, and that he’d been shotContinue reading “Racism 101 in my Household”
Structure, Consequences, and Rewards: What Works?
Let me start this post by emphasizing every kid is different. Of the three kids in our house, different things work for each one of them. With Sprout, she’s been with us since she was less than 2, in a stable, structured, safe environment where her needs are always met. She views Seth and meContinue reading “Structure, Consequences, and Rewards: What Works?”
Kids’ Relationships with “Stuff”
I thought of this topic because someone posted in a Facebook page I follow about their frustration with their foster kids’ treatment of toys and general messiness. Compared with her bio kids, she was surprised by the way her foster kids relate to objects. The original poster has my sympathy. It’s something Seth and IContinue reading “Kids’ Relationships with “Stuff””
A Happy Shindig
Tonight we went to a barn dance at the farm where Sprout rides horses. It’s a program primarily for disabled people, so most folks who ride there have physical or intellectual disabilities or both. It’s an amazing program. I found it a JOY to be surrounded by people who weren’t giving the kids weird looks.Continue reading “A Happy Shindig”
Trauma changes everything
Seth and I cleaned yesterday a bunch. He had the day off and though I was having a low energy day, it was a high motivation day and I powered through. We tackled the play room (my god what a mess!) and threw away broken toys and toys they’re misusing to beat on each other.Continue reading “Trauma changes everything”
How our vacation ended
I wrote a couple of posts about our vacation, then just dove into the Sunny situation without explaining how we were home in time for Sunny to arrive on our doorstep. I’m going to try to write about it with restraint and an adult perspective. Vacation kind of sucked. Ok it really sucked. I lovedContinue reading “How our vacation ended”
Forecast: Sunny skies for now
So it’s been about a week and a half since Sunny, Sprout’s biological sister, joined us. When I first mentioned her in this blog I said: On Tuesday, Sprout’s sister “Sunny” (8) joined us for… well, for now. It’s foster care so who the heck knows for how long? There are some relatives who mayContinue reading “Forecast: Sunny skies for now”
Food Fights
One of the many challenges of foster parenting revolves around food. It’s an exhausting problem because there’s no escaping it – we all need to eat multiple times a day. When kids first come to us I make it clear they can ALWAYS have a snack from a particular tray in the pantry. It’s currentlyContinue reading “Food Fights”
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